What grinds your gears?

Spouse can also misbehave, as far as I could see. What for of discipline works when he/she does that? I think a good slap on the face is a good peacemaking thing for any relationship that involves strong feelings. Yes, peacemaking. One of the spouses acts in an absurd way, gets smacked, goes silent for a day or a week and then is ready for a normal conversation.
Works for me. And works on me.

That's absolute bullshit and I would refuse to stay with any man who did that. No man has the right to discipline his wife like a child, same with women.
A rational adult does not slap their spouse when they are "misbehaving." A rational adult discusses, or makes an honest effort to calmly discuss with their spouse the situation and their feelings. That's what adults do. Immature people who don't know how to use logic instead of violence slap each other and try to "discipline" each other like children.
A child is different because the parent is in the position of authority to teach them right and wrong, and to demonstrate the consequences of bad decison-making. The parent has the responsibility to instill good principals in the child and demonstrate good behavior. The child doesn't know better, and needs to be taught. Sometimes with spankings, other times with discussion.
Two grown, married adults do not have that kind of authority over each other. One spouse is not a parental figure over the other. They have already gone through the stage in life where they have to learn from a figure above them. The husband (or wife) is not there to punish or discipline the other. They are meant to work as companions and partners using their adult knowledge and responsibility to maintain the marriage, especially when one acts irrationally. In such a case, its up to the other to use logic and responsible calmness to reach a conclusion on how to solve the issue with the other.
Slapping them as a form of discipline or punishment like children is bs.

Sometimes discussion can't even take place. Sometimes (ha, many times) adults don't know what they need. You refuse to stay with a person who does that, and that's fine.
Nowday they say it's bad to use corporal punishment, even as a last resource solution. It helped my collegue's marriage. His wife, after two years of marriage and year after giving a birth started to change 180 degrees and went overall bongo. She neglegted him, their child, housworks - and she was the one who took parental holiday. She called him names. He tried discussing, he went too easy on her until one day he slapped her and yelled the same things that he calmly tried to discuss many times before. His wife, initially angry and shocked, broke in tears and said that she can't menage, that she can't cope with the fact that she have a son.
He took her to a psychologist where she was diagnosed with A grade postpartum depression. She'd dwell in it even longer if she wasn't given a strong signal - a slap through the mouth.
Your "evil slap" helped the girl, the child and him. It helped the marriage.

You know what grinds my gears.

When a friend tells you over an IM he wants to commit suicide. Then not knowing if he's playing a cruel joke, over reacting or serious. at least now I know he didn't do it, but he's still unstable. can't really do much more.

While I agree that domestic violence is never an acceptable action, do you really think that a law of this sort has not been repealed long ago? I remember this topic rearing its head at least four years ago. Sure it was on the books once but I seriously doubt that it still stands.

Oh and lately it has been the astounding lack of directionals. Really folks how tough is it to flick a finger and let us know what the hell you are doing?

This is sad, Like I said earlier, my friend has experienced a death of a loved one. Sadly, he won't tell anyone... except me because I was stupid enough to greet him like the optimistic fuck I am. Now last night he had suicide thoughts, tonight he told me that he did indeed try to commit suicide, but he hadn't drunk enough pills. So now what? Do I keep letting him send me sob messages about: I won't bring anyone down with me? He has no parents and I don't know who the fuck his guardians are, I don't even know him that well! I'm just... concerned that nobody else is concerned... and he won't listen to my pleas for him to talk to someone else, someone he knows or just to talk to me about what he is experiencing...

Peitja, I didn't say it was evil, so don't put words in my mouth. Also, I'm about to get married within the next year, and you've admitted that you don't even want to be married, as well as aluded to the reason you sleep around being some kind of revenge against an ex. So I don't think you're in a position to give relationship advice, let alone marital advice.
Also, you should probably do a little research on post-partum and the effects of child-birth on a woman's psyche and body before you go saying slapping someone who has it is a good idea. I'd your friend would have been able to figure out that's what was going on, he would have taken her to therapy in the first place and the violent reaction never would have had to occur. That's what being a responsible, mature adult entails. Sometimes adults don't know what they want, but that doesn't excuse them from slapping each other across the mouth.

He tried to convice her into getting an analisys and she reacted violently. She went with fists on him earlier. She was throwing various objects at him when he mentioned psyhologist. He called her parents and she was verbaly violent towards her own folks.

All in all he had to use the force somehow to make things better.

And how can I not be in a position of giving advice on topics of relationship after being in so many?

Anyway, there's no need to drag this further. I know that I have my own view of wich is right and it works for me, so as you do and neither of us will change their minds. I said slaping has positives you've stated that it has absolutly no positives. And how can you call something without positives? Bad, evil. Although I don't belive that anything can be toatally negative or positive.

Since I'm new to this Deviant Art thing, I've been spending some time browsing through various galleries of various users and other stuff.

I could write about the content of low quality that craps the DA space and makes browsing tedious, but that's not the thing that grinds my gears.

What does, it's the fact that I've been on quite a few profiles of a very, very medicore (lightly said), *ahem* "artists" that require money for their "art".
Now, I understand the idea of paying for commisions of skilled artists, but not for purely amateurish crap. I wouldn't dare to put a price on any of my drawings, because I'd be feeling like some kind of di** for charging stupid people to pay for it. Yes, DA is full of di** like that. And stupid people who pay for crappy done commisions.
Some humility, people!

Pietja wrote:Since I'm new to this Deviant Art thing, I've been spending some time browsing through various galleries of various users and other stuff.

I could write about the content of low quality that craps the DA space and makes browsing tedious, but that's not the thing that grinds my gears.

What does, it's the fact that I've been on quite a few profiles of a very, very medicore (lightly said), *ahem* "artists" that require money for their "art".
Now, I understand the idea of paying for commisions of skilled artists, but not for purely amateurish crap. I wouldn't dare to put a price on any of my drawings, because I'd be feeling like some kind of di** for charging stupid people to pay for it. Yes, DA is full of di** like that. And stupid people who pay for crappy done commisions.
Some humility, people!

The only way to deal with those types is not to: Ignore them. It means one less customer putting money in their pockets.

Dear god, I think my mom purged some of my shirts..

I swear to ish, I think she threw out my MOTHER ****ING LIMITED EDITION EARTBOUND SHIRT.

She threw out my Blades shirt.

She threw out my MEGAMAN 2 SHIRT.

She threw out my Reggie Shirt..

My Projekt Revolution Shirt.

My Call of Duty 2 Shirt..

MOM! WHAT THE HELL!?

Frist's Gears Status: Thoroughly Ground

I thought that only happened in movies

Peitja, picking up a slut at a bar and sleeping with her for one night is not a relationship. It has to be successful and last for more than a day. You also mentioned a couple girls that you admitted to cheating on or with. That's where you're in no position. And great job leaving out information. Hope you know that's not typical for all relationships, so don't go saying its a peacemaking tool for all relationships because that IS bullshit.

ANYWAY on to my own rant.

One of my managers at work has fucked up my schedule for the bazillionth time and I'm sick of it. I gave him TWO copies of my availability, he lost them both, then tried to schedule me against my availability AGAIN.

Aut amat, aut odit mulier, nil est tertium...

As for the topic :

Door-to-door salesman.

My god, how I don't like 'em.
Just few seconds ago, I heard a knocking on my chamber door, thus I've opened them to see a pretty girl, maybe older than me, in a black coat, tight black trousers, black high heels and black handbag. Femme fatale look and a forced smile gave me the anwser to a question who is that woman even before she had a chance to speak.

"Good morning, I wanted to ask you some brief questions about our product" - she started the phraze that even I knew as some kind of mantra.

I smiled.

"Let me guess" - I replied - "You have a new, revolutionary toothpaste that will last for six months for two people, only one small drop is needed for daily cleaning, it gives results after two weeks and it costs about 12 bucks (30-40zł)?"

And there I saw what I've expected to see - a sight of her jaw supporting muscles giving up by the power of my words, a few seconds long silence, and then the glorious words :

"You're a di**, you know"

I pretended to be offended and replied :

"Well, that's a shame, because I've just ran out of toothpaste. But now I don't feel like buying one"

I nearly closed the door, when I opened them again and said :

"And I know that I'm a di**, but thank you for the compliment"

I've closed the door and bathed in the joy of the fact, that just now, just before, I've helped some poor girl that could be so much more than door-to-door salesman how she's wasting her life and potential on that kind of miserable work.
But then again she could end up with worse jobs, like at McDonalds or dressing as a bigass hamburger, shake or marinated pickle.

I don't mind them to sell stuff on the streets, but for crying out loud, don't they dare to knock on my chamber door!

I hate Uwe'Boll.

Like c'mon, here I am having a great time at a club and then that fucker comes in and starts turing everyone into poo. Was Damien going to get laid? Well he was until the potential girl turned into poo.

6 years ago, the Uwe Boll turned my class hamster to poo. when got rid of the remains but for some reason, he was alive the next day

Trying to quit smoking.......
Goddamn pain! >X(

Lycan wrote:Trying to quit smoking.......
Goddamn pain! >X(

Your avatar looks like he is having a hard time too.

I used to smoke, when I was 15-17. Parkour started at 17 so I quit so I wouldn't cough up a lung trying to jump a parking garage gap.

Lycan wrote:Trying to quit smoking.......
Goddamn pain! >X(

I know what you mean... but I've set myself some rules that I try to follow even if I'm going mad.

- I don't smoke in my home.
- I don't smoke in my or other people vehicles.
- I don't smoke in work (wich is g-damn hard).

I smoke outdoors when I'm going somwhere (shopping, friends) with friends that smoke, but still I don't do that in my house and I don't allow others to do it in my house, in clubs, pubs, at parties, restaurants that have smoking section...
I try to cross out smoking when I'm just walking alone somwhere, but it's hard.
My main - and I could say only motivation, as I don't care much about cancer (as I'm a cancer myself, so a cancer isn't fearful of cancer ) or any other medical reasons is money - because global goverments worry about our health so much, they want both kill us, I guess, and steal more money. Pack of Marlboro Long Red for fukken nearly 5€! That's bigger overkill than lung cancer IMO.
And if my brain and body demand a cig in a place where I didn't allowed myself to smoke, here's what I do :

- I stand up.
- Walk to the thickest wall in my ap.
- And I start punching it with my fist for about 15-25 times with full force.

Belive me, it works. Either of pain itself, or because my hands are too tormented to want to hold a cigarette.
But lately it rarely happens.
And I won't resign totally. Good puff from time to time is a pleasure and one of the joys of life. You wake up on chilly morning, go out, pull out a menthol and take a deep one... ahh...

I'm not promoting btw.

And I won't resign totally. Good puff from time to time is a pleasure and one of the joys of life. You wake up on chilly morning, go out, pull out a menthol and take a deep one... ahh...

That is something I'm really considering,
I had this morning really f*cked up feeling and I needed to smoke.
I just need to get hold on this addiction and take control back. >

I sat down to draw ninth strip of my comic, and I listen to some music from di.fm, chillout section, as I always do when drawing at night.
But then I heard India inspired music. And I can't tolerate anything that is indian. Music, food, art, anything.
That music irritated me so much, that I can't focus on sketching.
I hate you India. And I don't even know why.

short people
warm beer
shit dope
late trains
economy class
fusion cuisine
de-caffeinated coffee
police with no humor
lame tagging
tall girls with little breasts
little girls with huge breasts
diet and exercise
having to wear clothes to work
rain
sun
having to decide what to eat every day
getting out of bed
going to bed
condoms
anal sex (i just dont get it)
crappy porn
web filters that wont let me look at crappy porn
taxi drivers
pole dancers
mobile phones that take shitty pictures
cameras that make crap phone calls
any iProduct including the iPad, iPhone and iPod
humidity

lists

M Night Shyamalan after seeing the Last Air Bender. It sad to see a once talented director competing with Uwe Boll for director for worst director.

Highschool of the dead (anime).

I love boobs. I love zombie movies. But it hurts me to see a dead boobs. And all those asses and pants that flashing all the time. Even the cover of original manga got 5 pair of oversized boobs, 3 flashing pants and main hero somewhere in the background, not sure about that.

Code Geass came even further in second season – it killed a bunny girl in the first freaking episode.

Dushbags.