Trevon Fox wrote:
Pandora wrote:To be brutally honest, I find it both sick and sad that that is what is considered perfect now.
*Pets Pandora's head softly while smiling* I thank you for your honesty there Pandora but in all truth I don't see it brutal at all. You are entitled to your own opinion and I respect it to the fullest. To tell you the truth the only thing there that I don't take advantage of in the whole thought is that I would NEVER date to women at the same time. I just can't see myself doing it even though I have the choice to or not. But that is beyond the point, the point is that she can be my best friend and girlfriend and still be damn sexy while shes at it you know?
Oh, yes, of course. I'm a very firm believer in having a very happy and satisfying sex life with your partner of choice. That's entirely your business and your decision, not mine. If you're happy, that's awesome.
I'm just the kind of person who prefers to keep the details of my sex life private. I also like hearing about what makes someone perfect aside from what they can do in the bedroom. Some guys would read that description and not give a crap if she's smart or an engaging person outside of that. Not all guys, of course not all, but some. Social conditioning tells us that's what would be perfect, without regard to her personality or what she is like aside from those things. We are socially conditioned to judge women based on their sexual prowess (and men sometimes too. But that's a whole double standard I'm not in the mood to get into.) I don't know her, so of course I can't comment on what the rest of her is like. I think it would sound better if you said "the perfect girlfriend for me" instead of just "the perfect girlfriend" because not everyone agrees on what is perfect in a partner.
Regarding women as sex symbols, I'd rather be considered an actual person, and not a sexual icon. I am a sexual being, yes, I like sex, and I enjoy my sex life with my boyfriend to it's fullest, but I am not a sexual object for anyone. I am not an object. Whether a woman is fat or skinny, she should never be considered an object representative of sex alone. In an ideal world, I think, niether men, nor women would be sexualized that way. We would view each other as people and respect each other regardless of gender or physical appearance.
And when someone is heavy, or fat, it's not always because of laziness or careless, unhealthy eating. There are health issues that can cause involuntary weight gain. My mother, for example, had an accident at work four years ago that caused a chemical burn to her lungs. Her lungs were damaged, so she can't breathe right, and she was put on a medication that caused her to gain weight, she got off the medication for a while, and lost some of it, but then she suffered from a pinched nerve caused by a slipped disk in her back and had to start going on medications all over again. Another case, my friend. She has been heavy all her life, no matter what she tried. And believe me, she tried everything she could think of to lose weight. Only just last year did she finally find out why nothing worked, it was because of a serious problem with her thyroid. It it too late to do anything about it, since it took so many years to get the diagnosis. She is going to be overweight until the day she dies. All she can do now is work to maintain her weight as it is and not get any heavier. But that doesn't make her any less worthy of someone's time. She is still a great person.
Bottom line, don't judge.